Tantra Energy Healer Lily Chan On Her Journey To Self Liberation
A holistic wellness coach, certified yoga and meditation teacher, energy healer, wellness writer, content creator, adventurer, a free-spirited soul, nature lover, light seeker, and a life-embracing woman, Lily Chan is a woman who does everything. After overcoming her own life challenges, Chan is set out to help others discover their own light through energy healing and spiritual awakening. Read on to learn about how Chan found her own light, and follow her on her healing and wellness journey on her Instagram and podcast!
How did you realise your wellbeing was out of balance and you needed to do something about it?
It was gradual self-realization through a cascading effect of traumas I experienced in my life. I had been struggling since the age of 15 with mental and emotional health issues, which led me down a path of destructive tendencies – abusing substances, alcohol, self-harming, suicide attempts, and abusive friendships and relationships. For a decade, I was codependent on therapists, psychiatrists, and pharmaceutical medications to solve my issues but nothing worked. In fact, they made my wellbeing exponentially worse. The most monumental shifts for me happened after two particular incidents: I was physically abused by an ex-partner and landed in the ICU fighting for my life, and then my father committed suicide after battling debilitating depression for years. Through these experiences, many crises, changes, and years of hitting rock bottom over and over again, something within my soul awakened. I knew I had to take responsibility and change my life holistically. I took the biggest risk at that time, travelled the world for years apprenticing under spiritual teachers and masters from a multitude of modalities to learn how to self-heal. I was initiated into the world of Energy Medicine, Self-Healing, Holistic Therapist and Spiritual Awakening. It changed the trajectory of my life entirely and the Universe opened up for me.
“Embrace your uniqueness and weirdness entirely and the right people and opportunities will effortlessly free flow into your life. ”
How do you handle challenges and stressors differently now compared to before?
The old, wounded version of myself used to lash out at everyone and everything. I lived in fear, rage, sadness, and helplessness. I was a ticking time-bomb. The person I am now is a complete day and night difference from who I was before my awakening. Whereas before I was always the victim, now I am empowered to take full responsibility for the fullest expression of my life. Through years of disciplined practice and willingness to transform, I have cultivated a sense of inner calmness, resilience, fortitude, and personal power. Instead of reacting rashly to challenges and stressors, I now have the built-in hardware to respond intelligently and compassionately from a divergent, expanded perspective rather than a narrow, stubborn one. Now, when I am faced with challenges, I excitedly embrace them, understanding that they are there to amplify my growth. This simple shift alone transformed my worldview.
When and how did you realise that healing others was your calling?
It was a truly organic process. I never thought of being a healer. Truthfully, I didn't know what I wanted to do or be. I had no direction but I always felt this unnameable, ungraspable sense of “I know I can be more but I just don’t know how to get there.” After the domino effect of traumatic experiences, I did a lot of soul-searching. An old friend said something that always stayed with me: “Lily, no one can relate to you because on the outside, your life appears perfect.” And she was right. I hid my deepest pain, shame, guilt, and feelings of inadequacy from the world up until that point. When I realized how inauthentic I had been, I decided to change that. I started to share about my personal journey, uncensored with all whom I interacted with. Through sharing my own pain and vulnerabilities, people from around the world resonated with my words and they asked me for guidance on how I navigated through my healing transformation. This was the very beginning of how my calling to be a healer was ignited.
What healing trainings do you offer? What kinds of people would benefit most from your offerings?
I work with men and women from ages 21 and up, couples seeking conscious relationship healing, professional athletes, high-achieving executives, CEOs, entrepreneurs, and more who feel that they are ready to unlock the keys to a limitless life. Through online and in-person sessions, I help awaken their True Self through holistic transformation and spiritual teachings to self-liberation. My specialization is in Tantra, a lineage of ancient science that focuses on sexual and sensual energy as a path to spiritual awakening. I guide people to harmonize their Feminine and Masculine Energies so that they are able to unleash their inner light and optimize their human potential. Most modern people are masculine dominant in the way they show up in the world, and this has created a massive disconnection from the rest of who we are. My heart’s mission is to accompany others to recover from traumas and negative conditioning, so they can truly live the life they dream of.
The amazing thing about this work is that it is applicable and accessible for every person. No experience is needed. The only requirement is “are you ready to radically shift your life and live abundantly, joyfully, as the fullest expression of yourself?”
How would you encourage other women who recognise they are unhappy but are afraid to make a change?
Know that everything you need and wish for is already within you. Everything. EVERYTHING you desire to become a reality is on the other side of fear, and fear is simply a perception. You are not alone. If you open yourself up to receiving support, it will be given to you. Transformation doesn’t happen overnight. It is a gradual, incremental process. So be compassionate with yourself. Moment by moment, day by day. You have the ability to alchemize your pain into power.
If there is just one lesson you can share with the rest of the world, what would it be?
I suffered most of my life because I wasn’t living as my authentic self. I spent years trying to be like everyone else but myself. So, be authentic. Be unabashedly yourself. Embrace your uniqueness and weirdness entirely and the right people and opportunities will effortlessly free flow into your life. Everything is made of energy, including you. In order to attract all that you seek, you must first become everything that you ask for.
